Thanks is Most Fervently Given

 Eve came home! We had Thanksgiving dinner! Then Davis came home, and Jackson came over, and then I took Eve and Davis and Jackson to the pumpkin patch for the annual Pumpkin Patch Photo Shoot and Pumpkin Selection for Painting (missing Marianna and Alison, but we do what we can). Then we had a second Thanksgiving dinner at Davis's! This stream of days has bestowed gift after gift.

Friday while Eve was en route home on the train I went to a massage therapy appointment with a woman recommended highly by Collette (HI COLLETTE). I have left side neck pain that's been an issue for over a year now, and veers between bad and agonizing. Sometimes I kind of forget about it and then realize that I am extra cranky or feeling depressed, and then I realize I'm just in pain. I've done physio, I've done yoga, I've tried various painkillers, I stretch every night, and nothing makes a dent. I have started trying to settle into just living with it, but Ruth is adamant that we will achieve significant improvement if not complete cure, and I am cautiously optimistic.

Generally with Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, Matt cooks the turkey, I do biscuits and roasted Brussels sprouts or something and my parents do stuffing and potatoes and bring them over. I am responsible for ninety percent of the cooking in our house, but I've just never done turkey. A few years ago things were super busy and we ordered the Farm Boy ready-to-cook Thanksgiving dinner and it was perfect - delicious and easy. This year Matt was going to be away, so we ordered it again. Then we realized Matt would be home for two days between Spain and Arizona, and if we ate on Saturday he would be here, so we switched the pick-up date to Saturday. We could technically have cooked, but this way Matt had a nap while I put in the turkey (upside-down - I'm serious when I say I just don't do turkey), the kitchen was completely clean with a neat line of dishes ready to go in the oven at their assigned times, and then my parents came over and it was perfect - good food, some wine, some Poetry for Neanderthals. We missed Angus but he texted and was tired from going out with work friends, so he is doing well - is it weird to be happy that your son is slightly hung over? Probably.

Sunday Matt left early and Eve and I slept in. It was grey and we were moving slowly. I read more Don Quixote (66% done), and Eve worked on a graphical abstract for her virology class. Then the sun came out and I offered to induct her into the Cool Bloggers Walking Club, and we took Lucy out. I took a shower and read a bit more, then felt kind of headachey and sleepy. I laid down on my bed with a fuzzy blanket over me and Lucy came and snuggled up and it was one of those perfect half-naps where it was finally cold enough that I enjoyed being warm, and I was sort of asleep and sort of not, and I heard Eve leave and then come back with Jackson, and I didn't have to get up yet because I had gotten all the taco stuff ready for them in the afternoon. Then I got up to hang out with them.

Monday I did some cleaning and organizing and then we picked up Davis and Jackson for the pumpkin patch. We started this tradition a few years before they graduated. We did it distanced and masked during Covid. We did it in the pouring rain last year. 

This year was sunny

And windy

We take a million pictures (forthcoming) and then they pick pumpkins to decorate and we buy fruit and vegetables and candy apples - there was one year where it looked like there were only enough candy apples left for us, and they took them even though the kid behind them in line wanted one. It turned out there were more in the back, but now they invariably bring up that time they stole candy apples from children. All's fair in love and candy apples, I guess.

We usually come back to our house to paint the pumpkins after the pumpkin patch, but Jody was doing Thanksgiving dinner Monday night because Davis just got home Sunday night, so she invited us for dinner and we brought the pumpkins back here for them to paint tonight. This dinner was a cooking-all-the-things, chaotic, bumping into each other in the kitchen kind of dinner, and it was really nice to experience both. Jody's dad was there, and at one point after I told her husband that his apple cheesecake loaf was fucking delicious, I checked myself and said "how does your dad feel about swearing?" and she said "well he raised me", so whew.

Somehow they had ended up with no dessert, which was fine, but I had to get gas anyway so we went into the Quickie to see if there was anything not-quite-appropriate. 

Score.

Davis grabbed a couple bottles of wine, and then when we were back in the car we realized the red wine was zero sugar wine for diabetics, so we swung by our house to grab the Chianti we had just opened the day before. 

I think if my sister and her family don't come for Christmas (my niece is in the UK so it makes sense that she won't want to get in the car and drive six hours when she's home) I will invite friends over for Christmas dinner. I like the noise and warmth of a big crowd at the table. 

Eve and Davis are at a cafe doing schoolwork. I just walked Lucy and am about to do some somatic yoga for chronic pain. Happy Tuesday!




Comments

Elisabeth said…
I have not seen Deep and Delicious in YEARS. That was an era in my dessert-eating life. And those pies. What were they called? Maybe also deep and delicious. The chocolate pie on a graham crust topped with cream and then the chocolate sprinkles. Man I loved those things as a kid.
NGS said…
Sometimes I am excited by a retelling of other people's lives. I was about two paragraphs in and I was all "I need a nap" and then you sort of took a nap BUT THEN YOU WOKE UP and I don't know how you did it all. Sounds like a fun, exhausting weekend .
Nicole said…
Aw, what a great time you all had! Turkeys are my line in the sand too. I WILL NOT. But omg Deep and Delicious, yes please. I made one once - like, there was a recipe and I made it with all the little frosting blips and everything - and you know what, it wasn't any better. Lesson learned. Just buy the cake.
StephLove said…
What a joyful post. Well, except for the neck pain. I hope the new treatment plan helps. When I hurt my back it made me think of the people in my life with chronic pain (North, Beth's mom) and appreciate how exhausting it can be.

But I'm glad you had a nice pumpkin patch expedition and Thanksgiving.
Oh what a FUN Thanksgiving weekend! You always seem to be surrounded by fun and loving people doing joyous and delicious things together, and I think that really says a lot about you, Alli. Your posts about time with friends and family make me feel so warm and happy.

Ruth sounds like she is On It!!! Go, Ruth!
maya said…
Happy belated Thanksgiving! It looks and sounds like a joyous one and with all your beautiful loved ones about you.

(Sorry about your neck pain... I have it on the opposite side and am wincing and hoping for the best in sympathy and solidarity.)
Jenny said…
Happy Thanksgiving! I forget you're Canadian. It sounds lovely! I love all the family time and the trip to the pumpkin patch (yes, I want to see photos!) And I LOVE the description of your nap. I'm a napper, and my best ones when I'm sitting on the couch with a cat (or two) nearby and I just kind of slip off into sleep. Like you said, a half-sleep. People are moving around me but I'm just lying there, dozing and relaxing. It's the best.
I feel bad about your neck pain. You shouldn't have to live with that. I always tell people- there's a solution out there, you just haven't found it yet. I hope this treatment helps.
Busy Bee Suz said…
I used to be in charge of The Turkey and let's say, it's a lot of pressure. My husband took over a few years ago and now my Thanksgiving is SO easy. Like it's my fave.
Your Thanksgiving looks/sounds like so much fun! I did have a giggle thinking of your husband going from Spain to Arizona, and Canada in the middle. Does he ever get confused?
Deep and Delicious. I can get on board with an aptly named dessert!

I hope the massage therapist can really help you.
Swistle said…
I know I say it every year but I just instinctively love all your daughter's friends, and also your daughter. I've never met any of them but I feel INVESTED IN THEIR HAPPINESS

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